Honestly – which of us parents are not afraid of something our children could happen
– and we will not be able to protect them from?
Whilst they are still babies and crawl around in the playpen, there is no problem. And when we accompany them at their very first step nothing can happen anyway because our hands develop unimaginable lengths so that we can protect them all around. How great is the joy of parents, grandparents and all other relatives once the first few steps into the world are achieved. Tears of joy are not really seldom in this moment.
I still can remember the tears running down my cheeks when my boys did their first step.
And then the first kindergarten- or school-day were to master. Already days before I could rarely sleep because I imagined all kinds of threatening situations with which the little girl or little boy could be confronted on the way to school. Okay – you will still be able to taxi the child to the kindergarten by car. But then the day of truth occurs.
Anyway, you should bear in mind that at some point you have to let go as a parent. But that’s not easy for most of us. However, the child finally has to learn how to master that all without parents. And if one is over-motivated as a mom or dad, you will hear from the child soon: “Please Mom / Dad – I can do it alone! The others can do that too. And I really do not want to be laughed at by others! ”
Well, that’s it. Second separation from the umbilical cord is done!
Do these sentences sound familiar to you?
– Watch out for the traffic!
– Cross the street only in the green light!
– Do not talk to strangers!
– Never enter a stranger’s car, even if someone offers you a candy!
– … these and many other instructions we tell our children on their way.
But nowadays it doesn’t take a long time and our beloved ones have discovered the way to the Internet. “Oh my God – how come that quick..” I thought to myself. “What can I do now? How can I prepare them properly and, if necessary, protecting them from any threats? There are so many stories on TV … so many bad things can happen.”
I have read questions like this: “I wonder how parental control how to internet!” So “to internet” has becoming a verb already? I guess I missed something. 🙂
If you look at the numbers provided you know that there is more attention to pay regarding children dealing with the Internet.
The World Wide Web has become a matter of course and has become an integral part of young people’s lives, regardless of income levels. According to the International Telecommunication Union (ITU), 94% of adolescents aged 15 to 24 are online in developed countries. 65% are in underdeveloped countries. Half of the total population worldwide is online. Regardless of age.
Even the UN Children’s Fund “UNICEF” has called for better protection of children online (watch this review)
But there are quite a few protective measures that we can and should take as parents for ourselves.
Here some suggestions for how to set parental controls for the internet
Even preschoolers are already curious about the internet world and doing the right approach there is nothing wrong with that. Child-friendly pages that are intuitively structured, ad-free and with which children can learn playfully, offer good opportunities to discover the net.
In addition, you can well teach the child that there is a time limit or they are only allowed to play if Mom or Dad is with them. Common experience in surfing the Internet makes it easier to share positive and negative online experiences in the future. And it allows you to guide your children in the Internet use targeted.
When setting rules for online activities in your family or at school, do not forget that rules only work if kids and teens understand the rules and accept their eligibility.
You can install technical aids (like filter programs), especially for younger children.
The older children become the less these filter programs provide reliable protection, because teenagers can bypass them or use the Internet in other places (e.g. with friends or in Internet cafés).
Therefore, it is crucial to address issues such as pornography, violence, radicalism etc. in general and to promote appropriate awareness and reflection.
There is no 100% guarantee for protection against inappropriate content on the Internet, nor in the “real” life. But with a mix of measures, you can minimize the risks of problematic Internet experiences.
Never forget that the Internet offers great opportunities and competent use is an indispensable skill for school, leisure and work. Forgoing the Internet or radically restricting its use cannot be a solution. That is why it is important to actively prepare children for potential risks.
A few suggestions in detail
Agree on rules
It is important that parents talk with their child about the risks of surfing and agree which offers on the net may be of use – for how long and how often. These rules can also be recorded in a written contract.
Set surfing times
Fixed surfing times ensure that other interests are not being neglected. Orientation on the use of screen time is a limit of ten minutes per day per year of life or one hour per week per year of life. For children over the age of ten the weekly quota turns out itself, as children can allocate more and more autonomously, similar to pocket money. Of course that’s all done under observation by the parents.
Secure devices directly
It is advisable to set up a separate account for the offspring via the operating system of the computer in order to restrict functions such as the installation of programs or content depending on the age. Mobile devices also offer ways to restrict Internet access. Time limits can be used by parents so that other areas of life are not neglected. The installation of programs or the execution of downloads is the responsibility of the parents of children under the age of twelve. Depending on the operating system (iOS or Android), there are various settings options.
Adapt technical youth protection
There are some protective programs out there.
Child protection programs sort out inappropriate websites based on technical filters or allow approved websites only. Parents are well advised to check the settings regularly, to adjust the age and to block access with a secure password. All these measures do not completely protect against inappropriate content. They supplement attentive media education by the parents, but do not replace them.
Parents should sensitize their child for a careful handling of personal data. Carelessly communicated data at registration or for raffles can be used for promotional purposes or used by strangers to contact the children.
In general, when dealing with personal data such as name, telephone and mobile number, address, date of birth, but also pictures, videos, passwords and data in social networks (such as locations) or Messenger IDs > less is more!
These parents should diminish through settings in the browser. An username and password should not be related to personal information. A secure password also consists of a mix of lowercase and uppercase letters, numbers and special characters. It is important to store passwords nowhere and always keep them secret to use only for one user account.
It is important that parents also inform themselves about the legal situation during streaming and downloads and discuss with their child what is legal in the internet and what is not. While uploading and downloading copyrighted content on file sharing networks is illegal, streaming copyrighted material is in a legal gray area because content is only cached and is therefore similar to television. Online video stores are age-appropriate to block dubious sites without imprint, as they often refer to pirated copies. Also, lurking here are inappropriate content, cost and data traps and security risks such as viruses and other malicious software that can be transmitted without installation. It is better to show the child appropriate media libraries on which it can safely watch videos.
Parents should agree with their child that it will tell them if it encounters questionable and inappropriate content. Children should know that they will not be blamed if they have watched problematic sites and they can count on support from their parents. Parents can usually communicate content to the operator via a message button and block the user in question.
Thus, by now we should know “How parental controls how to internet”, right? 🙂
Thus, we all hope that we did everything necessary so that nothing happens to our offspring. Everything else they have to handle by themselves anyway. They will also make their own mistakes and they will learn from them. We have to rely on what we did, after all it was our own education that brought them there …:-)
Here some responsible reviews for you!
As there are certainly more situations especially threatening our children during the first few years you can read more about “manual” protection here.
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